Tuesday, April 8, 2014

My Last Post Here...

Going forward I won't be posting anything more to this blog. Yes, you are reading my last post here.

If you would like to follow my life's endeavors, writings, appearances, and blog posts -- you will find all of that and more on my website

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In leather and friendship,
Eric Pride

Saturday, May 25, 2013

The Master/slave History Project

Who are we? Where did we come from? How did we evolve and develop? A big part of our leather history hinges on the answers to these questions. Our leather history is an important part of our identity, values and beliefs - the heritage of you, me, and the community.  It provides the glue that unites and holds us together. Our leather bonds and ties - strong, powerful and very much alive.

Together, we have an obligation to preserve our leather history and traditions, for ourselves and for the ones that will follow in our footsteps. Any important organization, community, and people have a written history that makes them heard and remembered.  Indeed, there are many stories all throughout history - but remember, the ones we know today are the ones that were written down. 

Let us tell the world our story. Let them know who we are and where we come from. Let us tell them why we matter and are important. 

Join me in supporting the Master/slave History Project.

In leather and friendship,

Sir Eric Pride
The Pride Household
New York City, May 2013

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Our 40th Fetish Fair Fleamarket Experience (February 15-17, 2013)

We had a great time at the 40th Fetish Fair Fleamarket  this weekend! 

Taking the train up there Friday afternoon, while pricey (go figure, it's Amtrak!) it was well worth getting there without having to sit in traffic like several of our friends ended up doing who either took the bus or drove. 

The conference hotel, the Omni (formerly, the Westin), was just a few block away from the train station so walking over there was easy. Greeted by the friendly and smiling faces of the hotel and conference staff we checked in without a hitch and headed to our room.  Very nice and clean rooms (recently fully redone, I think) - definitely a major plus at any conference.  

After a drink in the hotel bar, Friday night we went for dinner with friends at Joe Marzilli's Old Canteen Italian Restaurant in the Federal Hill neighborhood of Providence, just about 8-10 blocks away from the conference hotel.  Homemade style Italian food at its best. I highly recommend this place and would go back. 

I taught three classes at the event this year. On Saturday, in the early afternoon I discussed "Bonding and Spirituality in D/s and M/s Relationships" and early evening I gave the demo "Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality". Hot tip: Giving a class on interrogation gives you an excuse to do terrible thing to wonderful people and still get away with it. Many thanks to @MistressAmiko @FridayBlaise and @Bendyogagirl for offering your sexy bodies to "mad science" :-)

Saturday night, after the interrogation class, I went for dinner with my "interrogation subjects" at Centro, the hotel restaurant. We were impressed with the service, menu and delivery at this place - and also for the fact that the servers dressed up specifically for the event, wearing some form of fetish wear. A very nice and fun touch for sure. 

After dinner I hosted the New Yorker Meet & Greet in one of the rooms in the vending area. It was fun to meet with a nice group of New Yorkers, and others who have the hots for us, and share our lifestyle experiences and backgrounds.  Afterwards, I took the opportunity to cruise the vendors who were still open, some of which stayed open until after 10PM! Many thanks to @angelwrong and @OwhipMe of OWHIPS for letting me try their fine Axel signal and bull whips. 

Assisted by @MistressAmiko and @FridayBlaise (I guess they didn't learn how bad I can be from the interrogation class!), Sunday afternoon I spoke on "The Anatomy of Play Scenes: Preparation, Construction and Execution". This is a new class in which I explore the structures and dynamics of different kinds of scenes, from the lighter to the more heavy ones. 

This is wonderful event to present at with large, well-equipped rooms with full PA systems and platforms, and a staff facilitator there all throughout. With around four thousand people attending the conference, each class easy gets over 150 people. I much enjoyed how interactive and engaged the audience was all throughout, making it a true joy to present. 

One of the best parts of an event like this is to meet new friends and to hang out with good ole ones. It is you guys that make an event special for me. Thanks to all of you for a wonderful time this weekend (I apologize in advance if I miss listing someone here): @MistressAmiko @FridayBlaise  @bendyogagirl @Mastertosusan @slavesusan @Roughinamorato @Midori @Max_BLC @ChrisMarks @LadySabrina @submale9992003 @Flick164 @Viviane and many more! 

I highly recommend the Fetish Fair Fleamarket to anyone in the lifestyle scene, newcomer to experienced alike. If you have not attended this event make sure to come next year – and, if you have attended it in the past make sure to come again next year!

In leather and friendship,
Eric Pride
February 18, 2013

Sunday, December 30, 2012

2012 - Looking Back / 2013 - Looking Forward

Today I am thinking about year 2012 gone past. 

It was a spectacular year in so many ways for us - professionally, privately and lifestyle-wise.  If I had to sum it up it would be: Love and friendship are the most valuable assets we have. Treasure what we have and what we aspire to.

I leave you with the following three items for 2013:
  • Let us promise ourselves to make 2013 even better and more special;
  • Let us celebrate who we are and what we stand for; and 
  • Let us celebrate our love for life!

In leather and friendship, 
Eric Pride
December 30, 2012

Monday, November 26, 2012

On Rituals for Personal and Spiritual Growth

Rituals are prescribed procedures for conducting ceremonies (small or large), religious or nonreligious. They are often performed for their symbolic value for the purpose of, for example, 

  • Addressing spiritual, religious, or emotional needs (e.g. medication practices, prayers, put us in the right headspace or make us relax);
  • Creating and strengthening relationship bonds (e.g. building bonds beyond the physical, sharing a special moment);
  • Celebrating that a milestone has been reached (e.g. collaring and capping ceremonies, leaving a problem or issue behind);
  • Announcing affirmations (e.g. *"Master, I belong to you"*, weddings, etc.).

Rituals can be as short and simple as a handshake, or as long and involved as a one-week long wedding ceremony (like the ones in India!).

Rituals are great for personal and spiritual growth. They also provide a safe way to deal with painful memories and experiences, and can help in initiating change and promote healing.

For the last few years I have been exploring the use of rituals in our lifestyle, primarily in small circles of family and friends for cleansing and healing purposes. Sometimes these rituals have contained elements of inspirational readings and divination. 

And, I'm curious to hear about your own experiences:

  • What kind rituals do you use or participate in, in your life or in your relationships? 
  • What kind of impact do they have on you, your partners, and your relationships?
  • What kind of rituals have you found useful?

On December 9, 2012, I will perform a semi-private cleansing and healing ritual in NYC. For more information go here.  

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Interrogation Scenes

I gave my presentation “Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality” for LILNR last night. The crowd transmitted such a wonderful beam of energy, making it a true pleasure to present. Talk about topspace :) That's what makes it so great to come out to Long Island. 

As a top, I love interrogation play. Yet, at the same time I fear it as the reactions and outcomes are not predictable. In some ways it is like playing with fire – you want the scene to heat up and get hot, but yet not fully burn your subjects. I think that it is partly this dichotomy that creates the thrill of it all. Of course, this also means you have to be very careful and respectful in what you do, making sure you don’t inflict any long-term physical or psychological harm. 

I wish I could do interrogation scenes more often - but I know, it is not every bottom's cup of tea. I’m looking forward to hearing about yours! 

Thank you Amiko, limer, and boy kevin for offering your bodies and souls for a good cause last night. Thank you Bob and Spike for having us present. Oh, and boy kevin’s card? Jack of diamonds. And no, he had not forgotten the name of the card. 

Here are some questions for you: 

  • Do you like interrogation scenes? And if so, what do you like with them? 
  • What kind of interrogation scenes have you done?

Sunday, July 8, 2012

A Great Weekend TES Fest 2012

We had a great time at TES Fest this on the weekend of June 29 - July 1, 2012. It was fun to see and hang out with many of our friends again, and play outside on the courtyard until the wee hours of the morning. 

I had a blast teaching my classes – many thanks to you who came and participated in the discussions on effective communication and conflict resolution skills in alternative lifestyle relationships. Many thanks to Mistress Amiko, my lovely class assistant (and much more!), who saved me from having to reveal how poor my hand writing is.

I would like to thank the organizers for putting together a great event that felt personal and intimate, yet had something to offer for everyone. A big plus was that the weather Gods were on our side. Blessed be Freyr and Thor! Before each one of my classes someone from the organizers came to the class room to check that I had everything I need.  As a presenter that is a nice touch that I always greatly appreciate. 

The auction on Saturday to raise money for NCSF was fun to participate in. If you didn’t have an opportunity to make your donation there please make sure you do on their website. As Bo Blaze so eloquently put it: “NCSF is our lobbying organization, supporting alternative sexuality and lifestyles.”

Shermie, thank you for letting me crack your bullwhips – my shoulders were sore for several days :-)

Always when I attend TES Fest I am reminded by my first time at this event in the early 2000s. Yes, that was when it was held at Hotel Pennsylvania near Penn Station. The scene has changed a lot since then and TES Fest has evolved with many new ideas and great initiatives. This weekend was a perfect example of what a great scene we have today.